Yes, I love being in a relationship, and in all honesty, I prefer that “taken” status to being single. Between my three serious relationships, I have long swaths of time-many months, if not years-where I’m single. I love falling in love, but I proceed with caution and choose selectively. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, and while I don’t like to discuss our relationship (as a sex and love writer, I need to keep some things sacred!), I will say that I’m definitely with him out of choice, not fear. At this point, we’re all so disillusioned-we’ve been trained to expect things not to work out-that when love actually comes along, it’s increasingly hard to recognize. Lo’s manager all but called her out in Vogue, saying, “The thing that I always sort of wished is that she would give herself time to just naturally meet someone, instead of having obsessive guys pursue her.” But giving yourself some time between relationships is not a hallmark of serial monogamy.Ī serial monogamist flits from relationship to relationship, each time more certain than the last that, surely, this must be “the one.” And sometimes, they’re back to back-dating someone new immediately after someone old-because, to them, being single is tantamount to having a long, slow root canal.įor the record, I am not a serial monogamist, and I think they’re giving romantics a bad name. Kourtney Kardashian comes to mind, and Kim, too, for that matter. Taylor Swift is a particularly famous serial monogamist.
#Monogamy vs serial monogamy how to#
There’s been a lot of talk about serial monogamy of late: what it is, what it’s not, and how to spot it in someone you’re dating.
Serial monogamists are ruining it for the rest of us.
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